Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Being a woman in the corporate world

Every time that I stood on the stage to deliver a talk
Ever time when I was resolving my customers issues
Every time when I was training geeks
Every time when I was representing my company in a conference
Ever time when I was signing a partnership deal

I was proud of being a woman in this men dominated tech corporate world.

It no more surprises me, when I find myself the only lady around the table in a strategic meeting. There is this perception that woman are good in marketing, testing, graphic designing, documentation. It’s time that we empower more woman in programming, leadership, management domain.

There is lots said, but let me share in my experience of being a woman in this tech corporate world for 5+ years and working in different job profiles:
Corporate trainer: I have seen guys raising their eyebrows, surprised & commenting when they saw me waking in the training room as a trainer. Somewhere notorious, teasers, hard to handle and most importantly had huge egos. In spite of all this, I knew I was there to impart my knowledge. I didn’t take things personally; my passion towards teaching was high. I just didn’t teach them to programme C, VBscript, Android & Java but make them feel coding as a poetry.

Server Consultant: My US customers used to be so excited to hear on the other side of the call a ladies voice & each time I got into a call to resolve my customers live production server issue..they made me feel so special & never failed to compliment and send me nice gifts. I guess a lady can easily empathize and be patient with a customer whose app server is big time screwed up and I just did that.

Programmer: Each piece of code that I wrote, each module that I built, each APK/WAR/EAR that I created… they were like my babies. I assured that they are well built, clean & had a long future and defect free.

Evangelist/Presales: It’s a very glamorous profession, but for a female at times a wrong act, message, move can lead her to no where. We are scanned from top to bottom, offered drinks, smoke and long drives… but with time you pick up the art to get away from all this & get your work done. There is lot of assumptions about ladies being in this field, but I always found it a nice challenge to clear these clouds.

Technology Writer: A woman is expressive & especially when it comes to me let it be my blog or technology freelancing that I do, I always write from heart. I get many offers for technology writing, like lately it being Digit Magazine. I just wish I get more time for my writings.

Business Development: I face very few females in this field, and I wonder each time WHY ? We talk finance, revenue share, branding, strategy, business goals, vision, competitors move etc. When I get into these meetings I feel like I am getting into boys club. Being a teetotaller & vegetarian I have learnt to manage myself to talk business in pubs, parties and most of the times deals getting finalized in the smoking zone.

Well throughout this journey, I never felt bad, hated men or regretted for being a woman. My dirty secret is that today wherever I am is majorly because I am a lady and I am proud. I get lots of attention & compliments which I really enjoy it to the core.

So ladies my message to you’ll is “Technology is a beautiful world, come in…we need more ladies. We have so much talent within us to drive innovation, lead business & change the world for better. I am enjoying myself here…. do join me, I am waiting….

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Dedicates




Why do we hurt those who love & care us the most?
Why we expect to be understood without expressing ourselves?
Why do we realize their importance once they are no more around?
Why can’t we live with people without whom we can’t live?
Why right looks wrong in their presence and all looks right in their absence?

*This post is dedicated to those lovely people who make my life beautiful and I failed each time to express to them what they mean to me. 

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Ohh People Ohh People


Well I was half asleep, and I woke up just to write this post.
The though behind this post is to share what I have felt & observed about people in general. Today one of my friend just made a statement to me saying, “****xyzzzz***** come one Bhavya, you have so many friends around”.

Yes, it true that in last couple of years I have met so many people, connected with them, shared & felt them. I have met people from different countries, cast, religion, state, language. With this believe I can say that indeed every individual is different, some are common, but the fact is all of them who claim themselves to be human have the following in them:
-       - Painful heart which is scrambled, scratched & broken by their dear ones
-       - Living with lots of regrets
-       - Wearing a Mask, what they show is never similar to what’s beneath them
-       - Selfish. What’s in for me? is the question they always ask themselves
-       - Prefer being closer to people who have fame/ money or are very positive towards life
-       - Judgmental towards others behaviours, attitude & outer look
-       - Desire for beauty, sex, happiness, fame & money
-       - Each act or reaction is backed with a selfish moto for self-benefits
-       - Fear expressing themselves
-       - Unsure dreams & desires
-       - Want to be always understood, happy, loved and complimented
-       - Get jealous


Youll are free to comment or argue on the above, but that’s what makes u, me, us human and it’s all fair. You can connect with any person only if you wish and not because you need to figure out commonality between each. Spiritual, emotional & intellectual are 3 broad categories in which you can easily connect with people.
The only rule that I follow religiously is accept people the way they are without any expectations. Isn’t it simple? :-)

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Knowing you has been my sweet escape

It was destiny that we had to meet
We were preparing for a journey
Time just passed by when we spoke
Dreams started building up
Future looked amazing & safe in your arms
The best thing ever that could happen to me
Fought with my fears with you
Rediscovered myself with you
Smiled truly with you
Felt you, fear of losing myself held me back
Why did I held back myself
Why did I
Couldn’t acknowledge those feelings
Know that I feel
It’s a bless that I feel all the emotions that exist on here
And I know
I was born to love you
With every single beat of my heart
I will, I do

Friday, March 23, 2012

If wishes had wings


If wishes had wings, togetherness would be reality,

holding close in my arms, not my distant view.

If wishes had wings, true love would be truth,

no weep at the thought of our last goodbye.

If wishes had wings, no tears would we cry,

wish didn’t care enough to hurt.

If wishes had wings, heart would find peace,

regardless of hope and passion’s desire.

If wishes had wings, we’d soar ever higher,

join to ignite destiny’s fire.

If wishes had wings, dream I’d secure,

life would be blessed with a meaning.

Monday, March 12, 2012

A heart full of love

A heart full of love

A heart full of music

No fears, no regrets

Lost in its own sweet world

Living its dreams

Still lost

Discovered the living

A heart full of love

A heart full of joy

Smiles & dancing all time

Just no time to hate

Breaths in vacuum

Set to fight all wars

Forgiving, blessing all

Just being oneself

A heart full of love

A heart full of light

A night bright as day

Awake in dreams

Getting gorgeous

Celebrating life

Revelling happiness as it comes

Rejoicing Love

Love life, live life,

Feel love….

World around you changes