Saturday, November 17, 2012

Are you listening to your heart or mind?

At every point of time in our lives we have to make decisions. It could be as small as deciding where to go for a vacation or where to go out to dine or it could be as big as choosing a profession, choosing a job or choosing your life partner. Taking a decision has never been easy for me and I am sure it’s not that easy for you too. We get stuck at a point where we can’t make a choice. This is majorly because we don’t know should we listen to your heart or mind. The question comes next is how do we differentiate what our heart is saying and what our mind wants us to do?

Have been researching on this for a while and few things below that I will be noting down is purely based on my experience: So let me tell you something about the role of the heart and mind. Let’s take an example:-Your parents are searching a groom for you and they show you two boys x and y. You got to choose between two of them. You have met them, interacted with them and have a fair idea on what the boys are. This task is done by our mind. It logically analyses things and construct a meta-data based on different parameters. If the differences between parameters being compared are huge then decision making is obvious. Say boy x fares very poorly in comparison with boy y on some parameters of your choice. Hence the decision making becomes easy and mind says yes.

Now consider a scenario where it becomes extremely difficult to decide whom to marry. On some parameters x is better and on some y is better. Your mind has analyzed things but has failed to break the deadlock. This is where your heart comes into picture. Your heart can’t lie. It knows what it wants. Just close your eyes and I am very sure, one choice will be in front of your eyes even if it’s higher by a small percentage. Go with your heart.

The same scenario can be applied to other cases as well. You are undecided between medical or engineering course. Listen to your heart. Go with it. Don’t look back in regret at any stage. Things will work well. But when it comes to any decision related to money always listen to your mind, like gambling, investment, lending money etc

Once you have listen to your heart, it’s time for your mind to take over. And this is where you need to play a major role. Listening to your heart is simple but not easy for the mind. Never regret the decision which your heart has taken. But if you fail to do this you will be in trouble for sure. The confusion will again return and you will end up making your life miserable. 
Few days back I got my handwriting analyzed and I was surprised to know that my mind rules my heart and trust me, that’s the worst. Get out of it…I have regretted all my decisions that I have made by my mind, I was scared to close my eyes and see what I always wanted. I was scared to speak out loud and trust on things that I wanted. Have belief!

Getting over the guilt of making a wrong decision is also important. Well it is not an easy job but one way of looking at it is by asking your conscience. Ask yourself whether the decision was taken with the intention of hurting others or with the intention of keeping someone happy. If your answer to this is positive, then the question of guilt creeping in doesn’t arise at all. In extreme cases few loved ones will stop talking to you completely forcing you to think about what you have done. But if your conscience is clear then just get along with it.

To conclude mind analyses things logically and strives to arrive at a decision. If the analysis leads to confusion then ask your heart for answers. No wonder the saying
“listen to your heart when in confusion” holds well true all time.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Happy Diwali!

On a moonless night, we light candles and small earthen pots with oil to get rid of the darkness. 
In India, we celebrate Diwali as a Festival of Lights. More than the religious reasons, I like it for what it symbolizes. A day I try to get rid of the darkness and fear, inside me, with the proverbial inner light.

I also take this opportunity to pass on love and light to all my near and dears. May you always have the courage to face your fears, may you always find light in the darkest hour of the night.

When you get a chance, please light a candle. Who knows someone might be looking for light, in his or her hour of darkness.

Happy Diwali!

*Wonderful lines by Tarun Chandel 

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Boss: Books that U must read

1.Magic of thinking Big - David J Schwartz
Enhances the thinking of people, encourage to think big see big and look for the +ve in everything, helps in removing excuses which currently people are not aware of themselves.

2. Being better than your best - Danny Lena,Marie Lena
 How to challenge self every day, set benchmark of self-improvement and lots of examples of people achieving greater heights. Self awareness of people increases, self worth, confidence.

3. Who moved my cheese - Dr. Spencer Johnson
How to embrace change, a change is resisted what will happen and how it impacts overall a person. Very nice story.

4. Today matters - John c. maxwell
Fantastic book on how by utilizing today effectively tomorrow will be much better, it teaches about setting priority, lots of fantastic examples of achievements

5. 7 habits of highly effective people - Stephen Covey
One of the best book on being effective in anything a person does

6. How to win friends and influence people - Dale Carnegie
Best book on resolving conflicts, achieving best teamwork and great goals together. How to keep a win-win perspective in each interaction for a greater benefits for all.

7. Power of Subconscious Mind - Joseph Murphy
How to embed good habits into our subconscious mind by consciously practicing it. How powerful is our subconscious mind and if controlled how it will take you to heights. another books is The Ant and the Elephant little story type of book depicting the same.

8. The secret - Rhonda Byrne
A strong law "Law of attraction" How it can attract everything (good or bad) to our lives and how by controlling the things we attract to our lives with deep focus the universe itself will manifest it for yourself . Very powerful.

9. How to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie
Most of us worry about things that may impact something or the other. How by taking actions we can stop worrying and make our life better.

* These are the list of books my boss has suggested me to read... his everlasting wish that he would love to see me read more. So I thought let me note it down here so that whenever I am in any mood of reading or will be wondering which book to gift my friend I can refer to this list :) 

Wednesday, November 7, 2012


Love is knowing just what to do when someone in your heart is struggling to recapture their usual spark. Sometimes it is sitting quietly beside them, or taking them out and helping them think other things for a while, or simply giving them space for a few hours to work things out. Love is knowing exactly how and when to show compassion, even when you feel like someone is being a bit silly about something. When you open your heart and arms instead of your mouth and simply be there for the ones you love - these are the times that bring a closeness and unity that no hurt can ever touch.

But you can know for certain you have found your one when, faced with the big problems, you pull together and deal with the issues together. All those funny little things about that person you love, even the little annoying things that you secretly hate to love, but love anyway. Loving someone is having the courage to step outside of our comfort zone and have a go at something we may never have dared before.

Those we love will hurt us, and you will at times hurt those that love you.

#unConditionalLove is when u don't have any reason for loving the person
#unConditionalLove is when u smile in difficult situations
#unConditionalLove is doing things without any expectations
#unConditionalLove is accepting
#unConditionalLove is just unconditional